Boston Lawsuit

 14-year-old girl, Alex Boston, is using a somewhat novel strategy to fight back against cyber bullying page made by a couple students from her middle school. Boston reported to police and school officials that she had been bullied on Facebook, they told her there was not much they could do because the harassment occurred off campus.  

Slapping her two classmates with a libel lawsuit, Alex and her parents are pushing for Georgia to strengthen its cyberbullying laws, and the lawsuit seeks a jury trial to generate attention, along with unspecified damages. The offending page came down about the time the lawsuit got filed last week…

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Bully look out

1. Bullying is easy to spot.
Most bullying occurs in the spaces adults don’t occupy: a raucous locker room, an empty hallway, a playground corner. By early elementary school, kids are adept at stealth nastiness. The idea of the bully as bruiser who steals lunch money and makes a scene is mostly obsolete. By middle school, some research finds that boys and girls engage in equal levels of psychological aggression. And looks can be deceiving: two boys playing in the dirt could be two boys playing—or it could be one boy verbally abusing the other. Even the most compassionate teachers struggle to spot the behavior.

2. Bullies are easy to spot.
I’ve heard countless elementary-school students say things like “I tried to tell my teacher about the bully, but she said, ‘Her? No! She’s your friend!’?” Bullies are talented chameleons. The most psychologically aggressive kids are usually the ones who cop angelic poses when adults walk into the room (Eddie Haskell, anyone?). These kids possess high social intelligence. The same skills that enable them to hurt their peers are precisely what allow them to manipulate adults.

3. Bullies are unpopular and have low self-esteem.
Research is finally catching up with what parents and teachers have known for years: plenty of the most aggressive kids are confident and socially successful. Bullying and aggression can yield rich social rewards like attention, more friends, and power. That’s one of the reasons it’s so hard to get kids to stop: gossip and exclusion bring people together, even as they push others out. And it’s why involving kids with high social status in anti-bullying programs is so important.

4. Bullies are bullies, and victims are victims.
In fact, kids are rarely, if ever, one or the other. Social dynamics can turn on a dime. Targets can become self-protecting bullies, and bullies are unseated in startling coups. Besides, a child’s peer culture is complex and in constant flux. You may have been on top in fifth grade, but at your new, bigger middle school, you’re desperate to be included. Roles rotate and hierarchies shift. There is no single profile of a bully, or a target. Everyone is fair game.

5. This is a generational problem.
“We never acted like that when we were their age” is an oft-repeated adult adage that brings to mind a recent episode of the ABC show Modern Family. Claire frets that her daughters will discover her checkered teen history with boys. “Your kids don’t need to know who you were before you had them,” she tells the camera. “They need to know who you wish you were, and they need to try to live up to that person.”

The first thing I do when I work with young people is tell them about my own involvement with bullying and aggression. I wish more adults would come clean and level with kids about their own past. Doing this opens a channel of honest communication between youth and adults, instead of making kids feel like they are doing something no one has ever done before. If we don’t model self-reflection, how can we expect kids to do the same?
6. Bullying is about the kids.
In fact, it’s parents who can be the biggest bullies of all. In the schools I work with, teachers tell me that they can manage their classrooms, but it’s the parents who are out of control. Parents replicate the same nerve-racking hierarchies they are so quick to condemn on the playground. They exclude children and parents from parties, playdates, and coffee, or publicly gossip about other people’s children. Until parents hold themselves to the same standards we impose on our kids, real change will be impossible.

7. My child would never do that.
Aggression in children is not the central problem; denying it is. Kids are, well, kids; they’re learning the social rules and must be expected to make some mistakes. Parental denial, on the other hand, is a powerful and unexplored barrier to reducing bullying in our communities. When parents are not open to the possibility that their children can be hurtful, they reflexively defend their kids and point fingers at others. Teachers and other parents become reluctant to initiate much-needed interventions, leading to a culture of gossip and fear.

8. Anti-bullying programs and laws are the most effective response.
Bullying is an extreme form of a behavior—aggression—that almost every child confronts in different ways. While many kids are targets of bullying, countless more endure demoralizing experiences like teasing, name-calling, shoving, and exclusion—none of which may meet the definition of “bullying.” Character education and social-emotional learning curricula lay the groundwork kids need to learn how to treat each other with respect.

9. This is an isolated problem.
Finally, while the recent headlines bring much-needed attention to bullying as a major public-health problem, their horrific nature may also give us permission to separate ourselves and our schools from the discussion. But the towns where these tragic events occurred are not exceptional. The behavior that led to these suicides can be found in almost any school in this country.

Recording Ravs

Ravi ex-rutgers student dharun ravi of facing charges of hate crimes and other offenses today for using a webcam to record and distribute videa that outed his roommate, as gay. come on for real? only biz you say in is…you got it.. your own…Creepy you know?

 

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A-7

A 7-year-old boy hanged himself from his bunk bed with a belt, depressed over his parents’ separation and because he got bullied constantly at school and around his neighborhood….He was discovered by his 14-year-old-sister, who saw him through the keyhole of his locked door.

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Kayla Narey, Sharon Chanon Velázquez, Ashley Longe, Sean Mulveyhill, and Flannery Mullins, all of South Hadley High School, faced felony and misdemeanour charges in the bullying of Phoebe Prince, an Irish immigrant who hanged herself in her family’s South Hadley apartment last year after what a prosecutor called a “relentless” campaign of bullying that included yelling “Irish whore” at her in the school library, posting demeaning comments about her on Facebook and threatening to beat her up.

She was said to have been stalked and verbally harassed from September 2009 until she was found hanging on the stairwell by her younger sister in January 2010.

Leak a Bully!

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems…
This has been an issue for generations. In recent years bullying has gone viral through social sites such as FB, The dirty.com and many others. The sad part is most of the time bullies dont even know they are bullying until its too late.
Looking back on my time I come to realize that i was a victum of the “bully virus” and it took another form of bullying to bring me to relization to what I had been doing.
I started this blog to start an inertia against bullying in school, at the work place, and for the world wide web of cyber bulling.
So Please Help me expose those that are unaware of their behavior. My mission?  lets point them out “Nik Richie” style.